The detransitioners you are listening to are a fraction of the detransitioners. The majority of detransitioners do so because of how society treats them because they are transgender.

You're just being silly. The reality of detransition is that gender is a spectrum, and some men or women with feminine components might think that those components assert they are a man or a woman -- sometimes correctly, sometimes incorrectly. Because man and woman are both categories that describe groups of people.

If you put all the silly social things, made up things, about all of this in your head, it becomes very obvious how all of this stuff works.

If you want to keep pretending that somehow a male always wants to act like a man and a female always wants to somehow act like a woman, in every case, with no exceptions, then don't come here to argue with pragmatic thoughts as you deny reality.